Why It Is Hard For Single Vietnamese Men Find A Decent Wife In The US

Vietnamese men have a hard time to find a decent wife in the United States of America or in other Western countries. One of the main reasons is that Vietnamese men outnumber women in these Western nations. Even though Vietnamese men who have high education and good career, many of them are still single. It is hard to find the girl that he wishes or dreams to have. Some of them have to choose a wife who is not on educated. I have some male friends who work as a software engineers, their wives are nail technicians. Are they happy? I think they are not but they have to live. Unless they come back to Viet Nam and marry a girl there, which they don’t want to.

Vietnamese bride and groom

Vietnamese bride and groom

Well, they can find a Vietnamese wife who have the same educated level as theirs, but the outlook is not there. Oh, man, to balance between the education and the look, some of them must pick the wives who work in the nail shops. For those Vietnamese guys who don’t have a degree, it is too hard to find a Viet wife in America, Canada, Australia and others. As you know, the Vietnamese men outnumber women so these ladies are proud of themselves. They dream of marrying a high-level educated man, even though they are not high educated. Generally speaking, if a Vietnamese girl who has a good outlook, she can get married with an educated man.

There are thousands of single Vietnamese girls and women at VietSingleCom dating site looking for love and marriage. As you know that Vietnamese women are very attracted with silky hair, smooth skin, petite bodies, and the graceful way when they walk on street, they seem to make men to turn their head. In other words, getting married with a Vietnamese wife will benefit you in many ways. A Viet girl can cook delicious dinner and does other house chores. The most important factor that Vietnamese women stand out from Western women is the honest in relationship and marriage. She loves you by heart, not by rich materials you have. She does not love you by your Lexus, BMW, big house, big bank account, she loves you by your true heart.

How do Vietnamese women find love online?

Vietnam ladies are honest and faithful. Whether you meet them at the clubs, bars, or VietSingleCom dating site, you will see the unique characteristics in them. Most guys think that they must be rich or have a lot of money to date a beautiful girl, this is not true to date Vietnamese girls. The only important thing to win her heart is the honest and loyalty, care and respect. You will win her heart permanently. If you try to show off your rich materials, then you will loose the game. Be patient to take your time slowly. Try to show her your care and the true love you are about to give her.

Vietnam women are not weak or submissive as you think. They just don’t show off like Western girls do. I have known one Viet lady who lives in Las Vegas, California at VietSingle dating site. She is strong, smart, and honest the same as Western women.

Viet girls do not usually get fat as they age. They always try to be on diet and stay in good shape. They look younger than their real age are. Vietnam ladies stay attractive far longer than Western women because they stay in good shape.

Also, thousands of single Vietnamese guys go back to Vietnam to find a decent wife. Usually, a man with good degree and career rarely do that. He’d rather pick a nail technician girl than go to Vietnam to get married with a high-degreed girl. He has a chance to marry a pretty girl in the US. So, that’s the reason many Vietnamese men are single in late 30s.

What do I suggest?

Once you are still in college, try to find a Vietnamese girlfriend. Don’t wait until you graduate, it is late. It is too hard to have that chance after you work in an office. There are some Vietnamese students in school you can flirt with. Don’t wait or you are late.

Some Vietnamese American men choose white girls for marriage. That’s a good choice too. However, most guys choose Viet wives because they want to keep traditional custom. American wives are nice and pretty but they don’t know how to eat ‘fish sauce’ or ‘nuoc mam’.

Author: Tuyet LamTuyet Lam
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  1. Oh come on man, Vietnamese men can find a good wife in the US, certainly. Only some poor and lazy Vietnamese guys can’t find a wife in America so they have to go back to marry single girls in Vietnam. That’s what I think.

  2. I am a Vietnamese man in my early forties.. 41 to be exact. My family came to America as refugees in 1980. Growing up in America can be quite confusing at times, due to the balancing of both Vietnamese and American culture. My life in America have lead me astray from my roots at an early age up to my mid 30’s. I have been in 3 relationships up til present day. My first relationship was with a Hispanic woman. My second relationship was with a Thai woman. My most recent relationship was with a Korean woman. After all those relationship experience, I realize that going with my own race (and religion) would have been the absolute best option. However, life does not always work out like the way we want. After my second relationship, with the Thai lady, I realize that although the religious connection was there, the culture and race aspect was not in tune. I was all willing to completely embrace Vietnamese women. However, fate would lead me to a wonderful educated Korean beauty that I had a relationship with for 3 years. Although I absolutely love Korean culture I did not want to lose my identity as a Vietnamese man. Plus, we also had a major disconnection relating to our religion. She was from a Baptist Christian background and I am Buddhist. As I was taught within my religious values, open-mindedness and non discrimination against other religions are some of the core religious practices. However, these values are very much different within her faith. The other thing that ultimately lead to a mutual acceptance between us was the fact that changes of characteristics and practices seem to mostly fall on me. She was very demanding yet was not willing to change enough to a compromising level within the relationship. So ends my most recent relationship. As fortune would have it, I’m pretty blessed with the fact that most people would not be able to tell that I am 41 or even close. I am an educated man with a 4 years BS degree in Industrial Design. I have a great job and a stable life. I have a healthy and fit lifestyle that consist of healthy home cooking and consistent daily exercise. But I digress. I cannot speak for every Vietnamese American males in America when it comes to how I perceive having a relationship in this country. One of my biggest fear regarding returning to Vietnam to find a good Vietnamese wife is in regards to all the horror stories of Vietnamese American men marrying women from Vietnam and then their relationship ends up in divorce due to various circumstances including prior establishment of relationship in Vietnam with another person, lack of interest in American lifestyle and even lost of interest from the woman driven by financial greed. All this is more than enough to scare any man to take his chances in America rather than waste any more of his lifetime with a woman who will eventually leave him. I have realize that throughout my dating experience, no matter how I look at it, I am not fully Vietnamese, even though I was born in Vietnam. Therefore, to marry a Vietnamese woman from Vietnam would more than likely create huge cultural conflicts within our lives together. Don’t get me wrong, I would absolutely love for the opportunity to meet and fall in love with a beautiful, respectful and well educated Vietnamese woman. However, regardless of where I find her, there needs to be a level of cultural tolerance, time and patience between us in order for everything to work out. Yes, that does sound very much like a fairy tale. As a Vietnamese Man trying to find a good Vietnamese woman in America, it has been very difficult. Most of the time, the attractive ones are very high maintenance and are too Americanize to cherish Vietnamese cultural values. Some are very so called, “White Washed”. Yes indeed, it is absolutely difficult for a Vietnamese American man in this country. This is why I am still living everyday hoping to one day meet my dream Vietnamese woman. And so I continue looking around the corners of my eyes when I am out and about.. and life continues on.

  3. It’s nearly impossible to find knowledgeable people about this subject, but you seem like you know what you’re talking
    about! Thanks

  4. C’mon dude. You think a software engineer is highly educated? And a nails technician is considered low and uneducated? Are you retarded? A job is a job and every confident man knows that once he set his heart to love someone, he loves her for who she is. Granted most nails technicians don’t have a college degree but again, majority of the people in this profession are of the older generation. They came to the States with many disadvantages (too late to go back to school, takes too long to learn English, ect.) thus, doing nails is the quickest way to earn a living in order to survive.
    I have a Master degree, teaching at one of the largest university in the States, I run my own company, and my full time job is a Director for an IT department, yet i don’t consider myself highly educated and look down on people just because of their professions. Only a low self-esteem man would settle for a partner then bitching about how unhappy he is.

  5. Hey I’m not Viet. I am interested in Viet Kieu for serious dating possibly more. Men 40 plus. I am Pacific Islander, Other Asian and African American decent. I grew up Asian culturally. Let’s talk!

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