If many men of Vietnamese origin living in the United States wishing to return to Vietnam to marry for many reasons, there are also many girls accept to marry “Viet Kieu” with different dreams.
In this reason, there is something for love, in the hope that a change life; someone because you want the opportunity to earn more money to satisfy material needs but if you live and do a normal function in Vietnam, it can not be done.
In fact, the path to this country is not easy for most people, whether wanted or not, many people still have to think that the girls are Vietnamese men living in the United States for wedding to the United States are “luck”, “happy” or “win the lottery”. However, the heart of the Vietnamese American girl to marry for various body parts and different circumstances, have proved much as one might think.
The story of Lan Chi Pham, Jenny Vo, and Cam Pham, women in their 20s, 30s, Vietnamese American married at least four years, can be considered as some of the stories represents a problem social issues: Getting married abroad – dreams and reality.
According to the U.S. Department of Homeland Security, in 2010, there were a total of 2981 visas were granted to follow guarantee the spouses, both conditional formatting (CR-1) and unconditionally (IR- 1). Nearly 3,000 visa spouses accounted for 15% of the total 20,518 visa to Vietnam through the United States guarantee the family migration.
No specific figures to see how many men and how many women from U.S. bail fiance, fiancee to the reunion, but from the fact, one can easily find some men to Vietnam to marry wife still account for the majority of Vietnamese women married.
Get the foreign husband because he wanted a good education
Pham Lan Chi, 26, who lives in the city Westminster (California.BT), working at a company specializing in medical devices, is thought to want to go to the U.S. for this reason.
Men’s voice mixed a little Hue tone, Advanced Lan said: “I met him through the recommendation of a cousin in the U.S.. When I was in college Year 4 mathematics department of Pedagogical University of Saigon, and the School of the 3rd year of a foreign language at the university. Since I was a small child do well, even in college I just focus on the story, dating love nothing. ”
According to Lan Chi, because she was willing to learn, dream higher education, my family is looking for her “fake marriage” with a Vietnamese-American, to the U.S. she had a chance to implement the Convention his dream.
“At the hearing, I was so excited, because my dream is not only graduates but also to postgraduate studies and doctoral degrees. That there opportunity to obtain a degree in the U.S., there’s nothing “, the next sub.
However, the start of the conversation, learn, Lan Chi “falls into attachment with him.”
“In addition to the talks by email, phone, I met him twice in Vietnam, each time is about 10 days to a fortnight. Not only in my eyes, but with my family lineage, he is a great person too. He is not only handsome, tall, and that he was willing to help clean the house, wash the dishes, cradling her in my home visit. Everyone told me to be blessed “- Lan Chi recalls.
“So instead of making fake marriage to the U.S. to go to school, we get each other”. Lan Chi to the U.S. as a fiancee in April, 2005.
External married because they want to be respected
Thu Vo, who is working at an electronics firm in Austin, accept referrals and want to marry a Vietnamese-American because the image of her brother-in-law overseas Vietnamese bring.
Thu Vo, 40, who works for a foreign company in Ho Chi Minh City before her husband moved to Texas.
Originally from Tra Vinh countryside, Thu Vo and his sister family to Saigon where to choose the school. Both sisters have a degree in economics. With education, the conversation returned to his marriage become something “not acceptable” for both sisters.
“I married a Vietnamese-Canadian, working in multinational companies. I saw the image in my brother-in-law of a man who is responsible, not deliberately trying to “control” (check soat.BT) his wife, between the couple they have mutual respect, help husband wife a lot of work in the family from house cleaning, child care, to go shopping. Unlike many with pictures of the family in my hometown, “Thu said.
“In addition, after years in Saigon, familiar with the way of life, get used to the modern way of working, I find myself hard to be married to a man back home. Anyway, sure did not he marry a wife who holds a higher degree, but my oversized back as well. ”
So at the recommendation of his brother-in-law, Thu familiar and accepted the proposal of the an overseas Vietnamese American, is your brother-in-law, also from the quality of a mature man in a country where she imagine.
Get American foreign husband because he wanted to go
This is a satisfactory case, 38 years old, a worker nail (nails, nails chan.BT) in Irvine (California.BT).
If satisfactory, from Da Lat, Saigon for parents in education from the age of 18 with dreams of children her name is brought in to think: “In Vietnam, there are not many opportunities for the high school, but that is due to luck, if not a relationship type “son of my father”. While trying graduated from the Marketing Department at a university, Thoa said that she learned to her three “fun”.
In addition, the story attempts to Apply in Saigon to school is also because “my parents want me to earn a husband belonging to the family wealth.” Thought “must have new money, people respected” instilled early Apply at her parents.
University degree, Thoa own business cosmetic trade occupations. Apply proud that I can earn more money than his friends in college. “Every month I earn about $ 500, while my friends office salary is only about $ 150 – $ 200″.
But with wages, Thoa said that she can not have nice cars or people. “There are people who used to tell me that in America they go to nail each month to earn not less than $ 2,500, if the subject passes through the eastern states, earn so much money,” Thoa said.
It is from thinking can earn more money for the material needs that Thoa not hesitate to agree when there is a large Vietnamese-American 13 years her senior asked her to marry.
Satisfactory to the United States in early 2006, and embarking on the school and nail make money just half a year after that, until now.
Get the foreign husband because of fate
This is the case of Jenny Vo, 35, a resident of Garden Grove, and Cam Pham, 33, was living in Fountain Valley (are in state California.BT).
“Dependent” is the answer immediately of Jenny when asked “The reason why you choose to get married overseas Vietnamese?”.
To the United States in mid-2007, Jenny has just completed a two-year program at Golden West College, is studying the tax classes, while waiting in the University of California at Fullerton.
Jenny recalled: “I knew he was 19 years old, he is six years older than me, attended the same college, but not in the same class. At first also just friends know through friends only. After nearly three years of knowing each other like that, one day, he came to my house in the evening to say that the next morning he … America. ”
When it was in 1997. According to Jenny, the two men still email messages from friends. “By 2003 the first return to Vietnam, he asked me if I would take her picture. Questions but also photos added is to wait for image finished college, get a job then just married “Jenny said. She agreed to marry, agree to wait, but with a condition “strawberry” after marrying.
Cam Pham, think will get married abroad or going abroad is not far from her thoughts, by “do not understand why in the past I did not have a good impression about his overseas Vietnamese for that camera to Vietnam, or seemed dissipated, boastful, see no sympathy. ” Not sympathetic to the “Viet Kieu Nuoc Ngoai”, but Cam “not like pictures Vietnamese man drinking-indulgence” caught her eye every day.
“When you are in the house introduced me to become familiar with him as an engineer in the U.S., I just think that you, as our two families other direction, which is the first hurdle.” Cam remembers.
However, “sure as fate,” Cam said, after four months of talking on the phone, his than Cam-year-old, from San Jose to Vietnam to meet her.
And just two months later, he was working as a computer engineer and his mother returned to Vietnam for the second time to engagement with Cam.
“By the end of August, 2008, I came to the U.S. as a fiancee.” Cam smiling tells his story.
Bring aspirations, such reasons to the land of paradise. But actually complete what Lan Chi, Jenny, Cam Pham, satisfactory … cuddle time left Vietnam or not is another matter.
Only know of them, this is a “single mom” (moms single than.BT), with the recently determined to “build happy families” constant after years of battle arguing wife husband, besides those who feel overwhelmed in happiness.
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